Are You Going to Have More Kids?

It’s the natural progression of relationship questions.

“When are you getting married?”

“When are you gonna have kids?”

“Are you going to have more kids?”

But sometimes, it’s just not that easy. You might be asking someone who doesn’t want more kids, for sure. But then… you could be innocently asking someone who’s had a miscarriage.

Or two.

Or three.

Sometimes you’re asking that question of someone who’s in a great relationship and a happy marriage, someone who wants more kids desperately, but just can’t get things to go past 6-8 weeks. They’re there, and then they’re gone, like sad little blips that quickly disappear on the radar of life.

I’ve always felt uncomfortable when someone asks me, “Are you going to have more kids?”

Are You Going to Have More Kids?

It’s obvious how much Josh and I dig our little boy Phil.

It’s not as obvious that we’ve been pregnant every single year since 2009, and only have one amazing little boy to show for it.

Sometimes when I get asked the “are you going to have more kids” question, I stumble through a short “Well we’ve had a bunch of miscarriages so who knows” explanation.

Most times I lamely answer “I don’t know.”

Because for reals. I just don’t know.

After our last miscarriage, Josh and I hadn’t hit the point where we’d given up, but we stopped actively trying with the intention of having more kids. We haven’t been preventing them, but we haven’t been planning on it working out, either. We decided to just roll with the punches as they happened and be content with what we have. We decided to just enjoy Phil for the rad kid he is.

It didn’t help things that we had to live on separate coasts for 7 months. I think that was even harder than going blind in one eye in my early 20s.

I’d rather go blind in my good eye before going another 7 months without Josh.

Ok maybe that’s a little extreme. But seriously guys. That sucked. Let’s not do that again, okay?

And then, at the end of May 2013, everything fell into place. Josh got to come home. He got to start at his new job. We got to be us again.

Are You Going to Have More Kids?

And this time, everything just worked.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – God’s got a plan going on, He is always watching out for us, and everything happens exactly when it’s supposed to. We’re into week 13 now, and the heartbeat’s been good and strong on both ultrasounds I’ve had. Thank you to all of our church family for keeping this little one in in your thoughts, and please keep the prayers coming that Phil gets to be a big brother in the spring.

I am so grateful to have a chance to have another little one.

I can’t wait for March 2014 to get here.

In the meantime? I’m gonna get SO fat, guys. Bring on the ice cream.

Special Note to my Craftcation friends: I won’t be at Craftcation 2014 because this little guy will be like 3 weeks old and nursing during the conference. But I’ll be back in 2015, promise. I think this is a good enough excuse, right?

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Freelance Illustrator Steph Calvert • Steph Calvert Art | https://stephcalvertart.com

Freelance illustrator Steph Calvert is an award-winning artist with 24 years of experience working as a creative professional. She is based in McDonough, Georgia, just south of Atlanta.

Steph Calvert has expertise as a children’s book illustrator. She is an expert surface pattern designer for art licensing and creates line drawings for publishing and product design. Steph has years of additional expertise as a mural artist, creating original art, and logo design for small businesses. She is currently querying literary agents with her first author/illustrator book projects.

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Moonfrye.com
OC Weekly

Educational Highlights

National SCBWI Conference, 2023
Illustration Summer Camp – The Highlights Foundation, 2021
Make Art That Sells, 2017
BFA in Computer Art – SCAD, 1999

20 responses to “Are You Going to Have More Kids?”

  3. Congrats again! I’m sorry to hear your struggles over the
    last few years, but I’m soooo happy about this wonderful news!
    You’re right. God has His plan. Looking forward to preggo pics
    🙂

    • It’s hard to admit it when it’s happening, but every time it hasn’t worked out for us? Not the right time to have a kid. I can’t deny it. And it totally sucks when things don’t go. But this time, it’s exciting that it gets to actually happen.

  6. Congratulations!!! I know the feeling of excitement and
    apprehension at the same time. And it’s true. God’s plan is
    definitely not ours. Although in the moment you feel it’s yours and
    up to you. Spring will be here before you know it!

  7. I’m crying because I’m both heartbroken for all of your
    loss and so happy for your lucky new family member. Because that
    kid will be born into the greatest family! Just ask Phil! I’m super
    happy for you and your family Steph and I’m wishing you a super
    comfy pregnancy and childbirth. xxoo

  8. Thanks for sharing the background story to your wonderful
    news–it makes it all that much sweeter. I am so happy for you,
    Josh and Phil, I know this new baby will be just as fantastic as
    your old baby 🙂 Wishing you all the best! Hugs and kisses from
    Long Beach, Steph H (the Other Steph!!)

  9. Hello baby! {waves back}, just reading this I got excited
    for your baby on the way and your family! How much fun Spring will
    be next year for your family.

  10. Congratulations!!! I fully expect this pregnancy to be illustrated every step of the way. In fact, I demand it! 😉 Enjoy getting fat! There’s no better reason!

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